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Lessons about Life in an Unexpected Place - By Essa Alraune
Did you ever receive a gift in an unexpected place?
I did, when I went to McDonald?s recently. My order was mistakenly placed as
a Child?s Happy Meal. For some reason, I decided it was worth keeping, and in it
was a gift in the form of a Sega game for kids.
After ignoring the game initially, and then haphazardly trying to play, I decided
to figure it out. A couple of days passed, and it occurred to me that there were
lessons about life in this little handheld game.
In a nutshell, the character of the game is to move up and down on lines, otherwise
known as elevators, in its attempt to get diamonds distributed on various landings/floors.
One side of the elevators is up, and the other is down. Stay on either too long,
and the character gets smushed. If the character misses the elevator, or doesn?t
collect the diamonds in time, or stays on the elevator too long, it loses a play.
Lose 5 plays on a level, and the game is over. Be successful with the collection
of 1 diamond 5 times, then move to the next level for 2, and then 3, 4, and 5. In
order to win the game, the player must successfully get to level 5, and be able
to successfully complete the diamond collection 5 times.
What lessons could someone take away from this little toy?
For starters, I realized my haphazard approach wasn`t getting me anywhere. I
realized that I needed to know how to play, needed to be focused, and in the moment.
If not, there is a good chance that I will fall into any of the pitfalls. If I get
distracted, I can lose a play, and potentially the game.
-> Just how many times in your life have you been THAT focused and conscious
and intentional about what you have done? Have you taken the time to really engross
yourself in what you`re doing? What kind of results are you getting? Have you truly
been playing ?your game??
Next, while there is some predictability to the game, the starting location varies,
and the diamonds are planted in different places each time. As I have played, it
has occurred to me that there are different ways to accomplish what needs to be
done.
->How often do you miss opportunities because you think the situation is predictable,
or (you think) there is only one way to go?
While realizing that there are different ways to get things done, I also realized
a second delay in pressing a button might mean that I would lose a play because
the character would miss the elevator that seemed to be there.
->How often do you think you?re standing on a firm foundation, only to have a
misstep? The great thing about the game is that there is always another chance.
Even if the options run out on the level I am on, I can always start over. Just
how often are you willing to just pick yourself up and begin again in your ?real?
life?
Occasionally, while playing, I will think that the character is going to one
space, but the game is just a second faster, and the character winds up in a different
place than I thought it would be. I then need to reconsider what I am doing, oftentimes
working with something better than expected.
->How many times do you think you know where you?re going, only to find yourself
somewhere else? Are you flexible enough to adapt to the changes?
Sometimes, I need to use the up elevator to maneuver myself into a place, so
that I could go down?and sometimes I need to use the down elevator to maneuver myself
to a place, so I can go up.
->How often do you realize that the direction you are headed in is taking you
the direction you need to go?
Once one level is completed 5 times, I am bumped into the next level. In the
game, it?s the next place to go.
->Once you have mastered something, does it seem that there is always something
else? Once growth has been achieved, does a new challenge present itself? At times
growth can seem like a lot of work, but it would also seem that each thing that
happens comes because it?s time for it to.
As I have continued to play, I realize that I have gotten better at it. What
seemed challenging at first, now almost seems too easy.
->How many times have things gotten easier for you, the more you?ve allowed yourself
to practice them? How often has a challenge ceased to be one with practice, awareness,
and frequency?
Lastly, it?s ?just? a game, right? I can?t take it seriously ? can I? Well, I
could, actually, but because it?s a game, I am willing to give myself space to breathe,
and have kept at it.
->Do you take your life seriously sometimes? What if you treated it more like
this game? What if you were willing to keep trying because you always knew you had
another chance? What if you could see your failures as stepping stones to your ultimate
successes?
By the way, I win the game now every time I play it with focus and intention.
Sometimes I get distracted, and I need to do something else, at which time I just
put it away and start over again another time. Sometimes I?m so close to finishing,
too. While it may at times be disappointing to stop, I know I can always to back
to it, and build myself up again to hear the sounds that tell me I?ve gotten as
far as I can, and that I have succeeded in what I set out to do.
Too bad life doesn?t have the ?winning sounds? that this game plays?so that we?d
know without a doubt when we?ve won. However, the sounds are still there, they may
just come in the form of cheers, clapping, or a friendly, supportive voice. We succeed
at something all the time, but are we too busy listening to the sounds of failure
to hear our successes?
What truly is success? Is it my ability to win the game? Perhaps. However, I
have come to realize that the minute that I did the best I could do in that moment,
I was already successful. What perspective this unexpected treasure offered me,
a big gift that came in the form of something that fits in the palm of my hand ?
something that reminds me, too, that whatever I need is well within my grasp.
The next time you are tempted to disregard something that has come your way,
consider that it may be a gift that has yet to be unwrapped.
?2004 Essa Alraune. Essa has a
varied, non-judgmental, and fun approach to the work she does as a StressBusterBuddy.
She works primarily with individuals on a one-on-one basis, and is the Author and
Publisher of a CD of stress relief recordings. To learn more about Essa, or her
CD, visit www.IamStressFree.com
or call 212.560.7582 (where you can also hear a 3-minute Relieve Stress Recording
? only local, toll, or long distance charges apply).
WHY? Why do I need self-help? - By STAR LEE
WHY? Why do we need help? Why use self-help?
There is a difference between getting help, and getting self-help. We may need
"help" in many areas of our lives, but we do need to help ourselves first and foremost
before
anyone else can offer any assistance.
If you think about it, if we don`t help our "self", who else can do it for us?
[NO ONE] Even if you seek therapy, your Doctor, Therapist, or Counselor will not
help you! They will only show you or teach you a new way around your
situation. Therapy will NOT "change" the situation. It only intangibly changes
your `eyes` and `ears` so that you may encounter the SAME situation in the way that
the
counselor suggests.
In fact, therapy does not solve anyone`s problem. The only one that solves the
problem is the person that created the problem, or the one`s that are involved in
it. The "problem" may still exist, but it will no longer be a "problem" once the
individual learns a new way
to see or hear the situation, and act accordingly.
Problems are nothing but PUZZLES! [See WHY? Do You Ever Wonder Why (ISBN: 0-972-2362-0-1)]
If you don`t know how to play the game [puzzle], you may not be able to solve the
problem. In fact, most games (in general) are learned
by playing, watching, and studying/learning. Therefore life`s puzzles are learned
in the same way!
Usually, prior to playing any game, one studies the instructions or directions
before-hand. Some say that "experience" is a great teacher. It is, out "learning"
to help one`s self prior to play - in conjunction with the experience of the game,
will give you a much better play.
SELF-HELP gives you a better play in the game of life because it teaches you
many ways to deal with yourself and others. If you think about it, we learn all
kinds of subjects in school - except about our "self". How many of us actually have
taken the time out to get to know our "self" [mind, body, spirit]? Whose job do
you think
it is to teach us about ourselves? [Is it our parents, family, peers, schools,
doctors?]
Keep in mind that we learn how to "drive" by instruction, watching, and practicing;
we also learn how to do many other things in the same way. But how many of us actually
take the time out to "learn" about our "self" and others?
Many of us are playing the game without any instructions or input. In fact, anyone
can play this game. Some may win, and some may lose.
So why do we need self-help? In this game of life, you must help yourself first;
and instructions from SELF-HELP methods will give you more directions to use that
will make you a better winner!
STAR LEE is the Author of the first
volume of the WHY? series, entitled "WHY? Do You Ever Wonder Why?" Her teachings
offer a new channel into the wonders of life!
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