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THE SUCCESS SERIES - by Christine DeCorte
"High ideals, lofty goals, best laid plans, strict standards of excellence" . .
. these are often the "buzz" words of people talking about success. Everybody talks
a good game. Winners go out and DO something. "Good, loyal, committed, honest, tough,
brave, confident, organized, competitive" . . . these could be used to describe
a Winner. But lots of people who are all those things and more never break through
to success. Of those adjectives, "competitive" is the only one that in its nature
leads to action, and that`s only if you`re willing to compete. Some people use competition
as an excuse not to do it. They say, "I just can`t compete with those people, there`s
no use in trying." What keeps people from putting their plans into action? The big
reason is: FEAR. It paralyzes, it saps your energy, it creates imaginary difficulties.
Even when you`re doing something you like to do, the fear of what you are putting
off is always there in the back of your mind. In "Think and Grow Rich," Napoleon
Hill said, "Do the things you fear, and the death of fear is certain." The key is
"in the doing". To conquer fear, some experts suggest making a list of ten things
you absolutely do not want to do, but things that you know would help your business
(or your life, health, or well-being), then do them. Once you get started, once
you check off a few of those dreaded, unfavorite things, once you see how easy some
of those things actually are - - you`re taking action to change your life for the
better. A favorite slogan of winners is "DO IT NOW." When I first saw the phrase,
I wondered what "it" was. I couldn`t figure out why motivators advised people to
"do it now", but never defined what it was or told exactly how to do it. I asked,
"What does it mean? Do what? Do I have to do it myself? Can`t somebody else do it
for me? It`s frustrating because nobody can give you the answer. No one knows the
details concerning someone else`s IT. The "it" in "DO IT NOW" isn`t any one thing.
When you do it, you just go out there and do whatever it takes for you to win. A
lot of people spend their lives just dreaming about doing it. Other will try to
do it. Almost everyone wants to do it, many will almost do it. The winners in this
world do whatever it takes to get the job done. And, always do more. Pete Rose said,
"You have to give 110% at anything you do because if you only give 100%, the guy
you`re playing against might be giving 100% and it`s going to be a standoff. If
you give an extra 10%, you`ve got a chance to win." Get started now; take the first
step. Get over that big hurdle of inactivity. You have to risk making a mistake
to do something, but the person who risks nothing, does nothing, has nothing, and
is nothing.
THE ULTIMATE SUCCESS STRATEGY
Most people would agree that the "essential" business success strategies are
a combination of goal setting, a positive attitude, proper motivation, teamwork,
high ideals, and hard, no, SMART work. In evaluating success strategies it seems
to me that I have missed probably one of the more difficult ones: RISK. In business
dealings, in relationships, in just about every aspect of our lives that we deem
important, there`s always an element of risk. As old clichés tell us, "Nothing ventured,
." or "No Pain, ." When we don`t take chances, our progress and personal growth
do not seem as monumental as when we do. The stakes may seem high if we fail, BUT
calculated risk multiplies geometrically the rewards when we succeed. A redeeming
aspect of Risk is that we can usually calculate the success or failure factors prior
to our pursuing the risk. We ask ourselves: What will happen if? Do I chance losing
something, for example, monetary (the easiest risk because it is replaceable), or
respect, credibility, love, trust, or health, at the possibility of gain? Some of
these things if lost may not be as easy to regain. Yet, the older I get (or should
I say the "more mature get") I seem to find that respect, credibility, love and
trust are not as vulnerable to loss as I once thought, when our basic character
has a strong foundation. We can, for example, express an opinion knowing that it
may not be popular, when we feel in our heart that our opinion, belief or action
is right AND we trust our motives and judgment, the risk of offending a few or "going
against the flow" is an acceptable risk. So, now I want to share with you my ultimate
success strategy. With everything I have achieved and acquired and become in my
30 -something years of life, I have had help.
I have not done any of it alone. Call
it God or Yahweh, or Jesus, Mohammed or Buddha, or The Universal Mind or your Higher
Self, it is a Power or Spirit much greater than any of us and it`s a power for good
and it is a source there for everyone for the asking. We all must stand for and believe in something. We must
believe in our higher Self. Trust in the good and the positive. Why do casinos here
in Las Vegas make money? Because the odds are in their favor. Just as life is in
your favor. Ask to win, Plan to win, Trust to win! Where Are Those Goals? We`re
past the first quarter of the new year - and one fourth the way to accomplishing
our goals for the year. Are you doing everything you set out to do earlier in the
year? There`s still plenty of time to reach your goals. Goals? You did set goals,
didn`t you? Without goals we have no way of measuring or gaging our productivity.
Look through the stack of paperwork on your desk and check your briefcase, your
goals must be there somewhere. What, you didn`t write them down? Without a clear, precise game
plan, without a desired outcome in writing, our destination is obscured. How can
you hit a target if you cannot see it? We need to review our goals everyday to stay
focused. I have not read a success story or met a successful person who did not
have goals written down. Written goals describe clearly and concisely where we want
to go, what we want to do, and how we want to do it. There is truth in the simple
phrase: "If you can see it and believe it, you can achieve it!" And we "see it"
daily through our written goals. Knowing this, why would anyone not write down their
goals? Fear of failure? There may be many "failures" as we work toward our goals.
Yet, failure is not a dead-end nor a defeat, it is just a roadblock. A highly motivated,
successful person uses roadblocks as stepping stones or learning experiences, each
one placing them closer to their goal. The life stories of great men and women are
testimonies to overcoming great obstacles on the road to success. Do we remember
Thomas Edison`s experiments that failed (and there were thousands of them), or do
we appreciate his phonograph, light bulb, and motion pictures? Do we remember Lincoln`s
failed business attempts, his numerous election losses, his nervous breakdown, or
do we remember his Emancipation Proclamation, Gettysburg Address, and preservation
of the Union? Is Margaret Sanger judged by her arrests for distributing "pornography" and her failure to change laws as she promoted birth
control methods in inner city slums, or for her legacy that evolved into the Planned
Parenthood organization? There may be "failures" on the road to your own personal
success. But with clearly defined written goals you can overcome these obstacles
and turn them into stepping stones for success. Let`s Do It Now!
PLEASE CHECK YOUR EXCUSES AT THE DOOR
In 1991, I was new to "sales" and not very disciplined. If I didn`t have a good
sales week, I would tell Larry Taylor, my National Marketing Director, all my excuses
why I didn`t write much business. Larry never got upset at my lack of production,
but he always had that look in his eye, a look like he knew better. I would always
think to myself, well the baby was sick and I did have a flat tire. I even had some
good excuses, like my mom was just diagnosed with terminal cancer or my dad died.
No matter the excuse, Larry`s look never varied. It wasn`t until I became
a manager and my agents came to me with their excuses, that I remembered, and I
chuckled to myself. The faces changed but the excuses remained the same. It didn`t
matter what a sales agent said she could do, but how determined she was at showing
me what she could do. We have all heard that "talk is cheap". The bottom line is:
If you don`t want to do something, the reason doesn`t really matter. There were
some agents who would say: "I wrote business this week because my car was broken, or how
else can I pay for this rental?" and, "I wrote business this week because the baby`s
sick, or how else can I pay the doctor?" There`s the story of the farmer who went
to his neighbor`s dairy farm to borrow a rope and his neighbor said, "No, I`m using
the rope to tie up the cow`s milk." The other farmer said, "You can`t use a rope
to tie up milk."
And the dairy farmer said, "Well, if you don`t want to do something,
the excuse doesn`t really matter. Is that piece of granite in your path a stumbling
block or a stepping stone? It`s all up to you. No one wants to hear your excuses
if you didn`t do your best. You know it and so does everyone who knows of your capacity
for greatness. Don`t compromise your ability and integrity by making excuses. Don`t
sell your success short by a lack of ambition, a lack of determination or a lack
of discipline. Decide that you want to be the very best in sales, then just do it !
Christine DeCorte, an Investment Counselor
and president of DeCorte & Associates, can be reached at Tri-Star Management, Inc.,
3900 Paradise Road, Ste 155, Las Vegas, Nevada 89109. Phone: 702.794.4444, E-Mail:
CDeCorte@tristarmngt.com. She represents
American Living Trust Services, LLC, and a variety of annuities, life insurance,
and investments.
THE SUCCESS SERIES - by Christine DeCorte
"High ideals, lofty goals, best laid plans, strict standards of excellence" . .
. these are often the "buzz" words of people talking about success. Everybody talks
a good game. Winners go out and DO something. "Good, loyal, committed, honest, tough,
brave, confident, organized, competitive" . . . these could be used to describe
a Winner. But lots of people who are all those things and more never break through
to success. Of those adjectives, "competitive" is the only one that in its nature
leads to action, and that`s only if you`re willing to compete. Some people use competition
as an excuse not to do it. They say, "I just can`t compete with those people, there`s
no use in trying." What keeps people from putting their plans into action? The big
reason is: FEAR. It paralyzes, it saps your energy, it creates imaginary difficulties.
Even when you`re doing something you like to do, the fear of what you are putting
off is always there in the back of your mind. In "Think and Grow Rich," Napoleon
Hill said, "Do the things you fear, and the death of fear is certain." The key is
"in the doing". To conquer fear, some experts suggest making a list of ten things
you absolutely do not want to do, but things that you know would help your business
(or your life, health, or well-being), then do them. Once you get started, once
you check off a few of those dreaded, unfavorite things, once you see how easy some
of those things actually are - - you`re taking action to change your life for the
better. A favorite slogan of winners is "DO IT NOW." When I first saw the phrase,
I wondered what "it" was. I couldn`t figure out why motivators advised people to
"do it now", but never defined what it was or told exactly how to do it. I asked,
"What does it mean? Do what? Do I have to do it myself? Can`t somebody else do it
for me? It`s frustrating because nobody can give you the answer. No one knows the
details concerning someone else`s IT. The "it" in "DO IT NOW" isn`t any one thing.
When you do it, you just go out there and do whatever it takes for you to win. A
lot of people spend their lives just dreaming about doing it. Other will try to
do it. Almost everyone wants to do it, many will almost do it. The winners in this
world do whatever it takes to get the job done. And, always do more. Pete Rose said,
"You have to give 110% at anything you do because if you only give 100%, the guy
you`re playing against might be giving 100% and it`s going to be a standoff. If
you give an extra 10%, you`ve got a chance to win." Get started now; take the first
step. Get over that big hurdle of inactivity. You have to risk making a mistake
to do something, but the person who risks nothing, does nothing, has nothing, and
is nothing.
THE ULTIMATE SUCCESS STRATEGY
Most people would agree that the "essential" business success strategies are
a combination of goal setting, a positive attitude, proper motivation, teamwork,
high ideals, and hard, no, SMART work. In evaluating success strategies it seems
to me that I have missed probably one of the more difficult ones: RISK. In business
dealings, in relationships, in just about every aspect of our lives that we deem
important, there`s always an element of risk. As old clichés tell us, "Nothing ventured,
." or "No Pain, ." When we don`t take chances, our progress and personal growth
do not seem as monumental as when we do. The stakes may seem high if we fail, BUT
calculated risk multiplies geometrically the rewards when we succeed. A redeeming
aspect of Risk is that we can usually calculate the success or failure factors prior
to our pursuing the risk. We ask ourselves: What will happen if? Do I chance losing
something, for example, monetary (the easiest risk because it is replaceable), or
respect, credibility, love, trust, or health, at the possibility of gain? Some of
these things if lost may not be as easy to regain. Yet, the older I get (or should
I say the "more mature get") I seem to find that respect, credibility, love and
trust are not as vulnerable to loss as I once thought, when our basic character
has a strong foundation. We can, for example, express an opinion knowing that it
may not be popular, when we feel in our heart that our opinion, belief or action
is right AND we trust our motives and judgment, the risk of offending a few or "going
against the flow" is an acceptable risk. So, now I want to share with you my ultimate
success strategy. With everything I have achieved and acquired and become in my
30 -something years of life, I have had help. I have not done any of it alone. Call
it God or Yahweh, or Jesus, Mohammed or Buddha, or The Universal Mind or your Higher
Self, it is a Power or Spirit much greater than any of us and it`s a power for good
and it is a source there for
everyone for the asking. We all must stand for and believe in something. We must
believe in our higher Self. Trust in the good and the positive. Why do casinos here
in Las Vegas make money? Because the odds are in their favor. Just as life is in
your favor. Ask to win, Plan to win, Trust to win! Where Are Those Goals? We`re
past the first quarter of the new year - and one fourth the way to accomplishing
our goals for the year. Are you doing everything you set out to do earlier in the
year? There`s still plenty of time to reach your goals. Goals? You did set goals,
didn`t you? Without goals we have no way of measuring or gaging our productivity.
Look through the stack of paperwork on your desk and check your briefcase, your
goals must be
there somewhere. What, you didn`t write them down? Without a clear, precise game
plan, without a desired outcome in writing, our destination is obscured. How can
you hit a target if you cannot see it? We need to review our goals everyday to stay
focused. I have not read a success story or met a successful person who did not
have goals written down. Written goals describe clearly and concisely where we want
to go, what we want to do, and how we want to do it. There is truth in the simple
phrase: "If you can see it and believe it, you can achieve it!" And we "see it"
daily through our written goals. Knowing this, why would anyone not write down their
goals? Fear of failure? There may be many "failures" as we work toward our goals.
Yet, failure is not a dead-end nor a defeat, it is just a roadblock. A highly motivated,
successful person uses roadblocks as stepping stones or learning experiences, each
one placing them closer to their goal. The life stories of great men and women are
testimonies to overcoming great obstacles on the road to success. Do we remember
Thomas Edison`s experiments that failed (and there were thousands of them), or do
we appreciate his phonograph, light bulb, and motion pictures? Do we remember Lincoln`s
failed business attempts, his numerous election losses, his nervous breakdown, or
do we remember his Emancipation Proclamation, Gettysburg Address, and preservation
of the Union? Is Margaret Sanger judged by her arrests for
distributing "pornography" and her failure to change laws as she promoted birth
control methods in inner city slums, or for her legacy that evolved into the Planned
Parenthood organization? There may be "failures" on the road to your own personal
success. But with clearly defined written goals you can overcome these obstacles
and turn them into stepping stones for success. Let`s Do It Now!
PLEASE CHECK YOUR EXCUSES AT THE DOOR
In 1991, I was new to "sales" and not very disciplined. If I didn`t have a good
sales week, I would tell Larry Taylor, my National Marketing Director, all my excuses
why I didn`t write much business. Larry never got upset at my lack of production,
but he always had that look in his eye, a look like he knew better. I would always
think to myself, well the baby was sick and I did have a flat tire. I even had some
good excuses, like my mom was just diagnosed with terminal cancer or my dad
died. No matter the excuse, Larry`s look never varied. It wasn`t until I became
a manager and my agents came to me with their excuses, that I remembered, and I
chuckled to myself. The faces changed but the excuses remained the same. It didn`t
matter what a sales agent said she could do, but how determined she was at showing
me what she could do. We have all heard that "talk is cheap". The bottom line is:
If you don`t want to do something, the reason doesn`t really matter. There were
some agents
who would say: "I wrote business this week because my car was broken, or how
else can I pay for this rental?" and, "I wrote business this week because the baby`s
sick, or how else can I pay the doctor?" There`s the story of the farmer who went
to his neighbor`s dairy farm to borrow a rope and his neighbor said, "No, I`m using
the rope to tie up the cow`s milk." The other farmer said, "You can`t use a rope
to tie up milk." And the dairy farmer said, "Well, if you don`t want to do something,
the
excuse doesn`t really matter. Is that piece of granite in your path a stumbling
block or a stepping stone? It`s all up to you. No one wants to hear your excuses
if you didn`t do your best. You know it and so does everyone who knows of your capacity
for greatness. Don`t compromise your ability and integrity by making excuses. Don`t
sell your success short by a lack of ambition, a lack of determination or a lack
of discipline. Decide that you want to be the very best in sales, then . .
.just do it !
Christine DeCorte, an Investment Counselor
and president of DeCorte & Associates, can be reached at Tri-Star Management, Inc.,
3900 Paradise Road, Ste 155, Las Vegas, Nevada 89109. Phone: 702.794.4444, E-Mail:
CDeCorte@tristarmngt.com. She represents
American Living Trust Services, LLC, and a variety of annuities, life insurance,
and investments.
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