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Questions for the Game of Life - By Maureen Killoran
?If you could eliminate one day from your past so that you never had to live
through it, what day would you erase??
?If you could ask a single question of a dead relative, what would it be
and of whom would you ask it??
These questions come from a little book I?ve been reading as a way to begin the
New Year. If. . . Questions for the Game of Life by Evelyn McFarlane and
James Saywell (Villard, 1995) My partner and I have been playing it, one of us throwing
out a question, and then both of us sharing responses.
Some questions are easy and fun: ?If you had the chance to make any one purchase
that you passed up in your lifetime, what would it be?? (Ah, no contest! The
set of antique china we found on the Oregon coast some 8 years ago but were too
timid to buy.)
Others are a challenge: ?If you could choose the very last thing you will see
before death, what would it be?? (That took some reflection, but, although I?m
not a gardener, what I think I?d most want to see is perfect, full-blown rose.)
Still others plunge us into an intimacy we may or may not have considered: ?What
is the one thing from your past about which you feel the most guilty?? (OK, so
I?m chicken ? I pass!)
It?s a fun game, and a good relationship-builder. And yet I wonder: what happens
if I go a step farther, take the initiative of shaping the questions I need to hear.
IF . . . I want to make this year the best one of my life, what one attitude
will I change, starting right now?
IF . . . I truly believe that hope is possible and love is real, how will
I let it show?
IF . . . I want to live so that my values show, what one thing will I do
TODAY?
Your questions may be different from mine, and your answers surely will. But
that?s the beauty of the ?Game of Life?. There are as many questions as you need.
And only YOU can shape the answers - IF . . . you only take your values in hand
and dare to begin.
? Maureen Killoran, 2005
Maureen Killoran is a Life Coach
and Unitarian minister, with a passion for helping people connect their strengths
with their vision. Check out her powerful teleclass, ?Be an Excellent Grandparent:
5 Keys to Success.? Maureen also offers individual and group coaching, tele-support
communities, and publishes a free monthly e-zine, "Seeds of Change." With graduate
training in Life Coaching and positive psychology, Masters degrees in family sociology
and divinity, and a doctorate in systems thinking, Maureen brings a breadth of experience
and a lot of joyful energy to her intuitively-grounded practice. You can find more
details about Coach Maureen Killoran at
www.spiritquestcoaching.com
A Memory Skills Mini Course - By Rick Sheridan
Here are some memory techniques that I learned from reading a book by, and attending
a lecture by Dominic O`Brien, the eight-time World Memory Champion. This contest
requires incredible feats of memory skills, such as memorizing up to 28 decks of
shuffled playing cards. His book is a description of several of the established
memory techniques along with advice about how to use them in everyday situations.
Many of the memory techniques that O`Brien describes are similar or identical to
those offered by other `memory experts.`
Key ideas
The art of location memory technique-
According to O`Brien, studies show that people who have spent the day traveling
are especially accurate in recalling the sequence of events in their day. Even details
of conversation seem sharper because the dialog is remembered in the setting in
which it took place. To use the art of location, you actually get out and walk a
familiar journey, linking pieces of the information to various stops along the route.
To remember the information, you would retrace your steps in your imagination later,
and try to remember the item that you had linked to it. The ancient Greeks and Romans
valued this method above all others and O`Brien attributes this to his personal
success.
Mnemonics-
This technique uses wordplay, ditties and other associative techniques. For example,
I could create an anagram by taking the word DOT to help me remember the words Determination,
Optimism, Toughness. There are many free "anagram generator" programs on the Internet
where you can take a random group of letters that represent the first letter of
words that you are trying to remember and convert them into a legible word that
is easy to remember and triggers off the memory of all the other words.
Visual pegs-
Visual pegs are relationships between the components of a group. For example,
if you were trying to memorize sets of five items that had different sized items.
To help the memory process, you would think of the largest component and progress
to the smallest: (for example: bear, badger, mouse, butterfly, ant).
The story method-
With this method, you would string together a list of items or events that form
a logical story. Make the links interesting and add color, suspense and movement
to tie the items together.
The Dominic system-
This stands for: Decipherment Of Mnemonically Interpreted Numbers into Characters
(DOMINIC). O`Brien links numbers with characters such as 07 for James Bond, 23 for
Bill Clinton (2nd & 3rd letters of the alphabet, etc. This is a time-consuming method
of learning how to memorize, but has incredible potential for storage of vast amounts
of data.
Mind maps-
Mind mapping is a whole-brain method for generating and organizing ideas, largely
inspired by Leanardo da Vinci`s approach to note taking. Mind maps use pictures,
images, color coding, highlighting to stimulate the creative association and enhance
the memory. Write the main idea in the middle of a page and connect other ideas
with pictures, images and keywords
The art of recall-
Our ability to retrieve memories depends largely on how we organized and store
them in the first place. The art of recall is the skill by which we can make the
appropriate link that leads us to the memories that we want to retrieve. For example,
to remember the name of a town we visited, try to recall as many associative details
as possible such as street names, sounds we heard there along with other associated
impressions. Often the name suddenly comes from the depths of memory. When a sight,
sound or smell unexpectedly triggers apparently forgotten memories, this is called
"surprise random recall," and indicates that more memories might be rediscovered
if we could find the right triggers to bring them to consciousness.
Remembering names and faces-
The key is to link together the face, name and place in a chain of association.
Are there any distinguishing features of the face? Do they remind you of someone
else you know who has those features? Do they remind you of another item you can
associate that person with? Repeating the name several times and linking it to related
associations can help the recall process.
The art of concentration-
To concentrate is to notice what we see, to listen to what we hear, to feel what
we touch, savor what we taste and smell and to be mindful of what we think. If we
try to do two things at once, our attention flits back and forth at lightning speed
between the two, and we don`t fully concentrate on either. The secret to concentration
when formally memorizing is to focus fully on the information, while at the same
time allowing our brain to make appropriate associations.
Memory and the senses-
Incorporating all of our five senses into whatever memory techniques we try will
make it easier for us to memorize and recall. For example, to remember a tree, think
of the image, the sound of the wind, the smell of the leaves, the rough touch of
the bark, etc. Smell bypasses the filters of the brain, and connects directly to
our memory store. Scent can instantly transport us back to an event or person in
our past. Associating smell with something we want to learn could help to lock it
in.
The art of observation-
When we observe an object in a fully attentive, fully conscious way (noting color,
shape, size, features, etc.), the etchings that are made on the brain are deeper
than when we merely receive an overall visual impression. Being able to recall precise
visual details in the mind`s eye is part of a discipline of mental focus and alertness
that helps our memory training.
Revision and repetition-
Learning by the repetition of facts over and over again has been largely discredited
in education. We now believe that the most memorable facts are those that engage
our interest and that involve us in some way. O`Brien thinks that it a matter of
rehearsing an act of memory and going over the process of recall at regular intervals,
to fix the various routes of association in our minds.
Keeping the mind young-
O`Brien believes that you should exercise the mind everyday just like an athlete
stretches their body every day. Crosswords, brain teasers and challenging reading
materials can help to keep the mind active. He also recommends that we engage with
all that goes on around us, associate things we want to memorize with all of their
sights, sounds and smells. O`Brien believes that memory does not deteriorate with
age, only the speed at which our brain processes and stores our memories will change.
Having confidence and avoiding the stereotype that our brain will deteriorate helps
overcome the image. Oxygen to the brain is also very important to keep the memory
sharp, and physical exercise can help.
Rick Sheridan runs BookSpirit.com,
an online bookstore with many personal development and self-help topics. His news
and feature articles have been published by The Chicago Sun-Times, United Press
International, etc. More information at: http://www.bookspirit.com
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